I've been debating back and forth as to whether or not I was going to give this one particular person any attention on any kind of a public forum. I didn't feel that it was worth the time and energy, and while so central to our lives currently, this person is also someone that we'd very much like to be able put in the past. Then September turned to October, and I realized that I could talk (and therefore vent) about this in the context of (breast) cancer, being that October is breast cancer awareness month.
No one wants a cancer in their life- be it a literal form of cancer, or a cancer in the form of a toxic job/boss, toxic lifestyle, or in our case, a toxic person. But like any cancer, it doesn't care whether or not you want it in your life. It simply shows up, sets up camp, and slowly (or aggressively, in some cases) begins to take over.
At that point, you can pretend to ignore the cancer (which may bring you short-term blissful unawareness) but there will come a point where you will have no choice but to face it. We are at that boiling point right now. As any cancer patient will tell you, there are two basic ways to approach the disease: head-on or not at all. So here we are, facing this head-on, and I can tell you that it is about time.
Even though the cancer led the way initially, I can't shake the feeling that we are in the driver's seat from here on out. We have to be, because our strength and our sanity as a family is at stake. I talked about stress and action plans in an earlier post. Our action plan is in place; now we get to test its strength!
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